Nurture Shock
Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman
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Kids who are over-praised feel so much pressure that they concentrate only on what grade they will get. Frequently praised kids get more competitive and interested in tearing other kids down.
Every parent and most teachers think they can detect lies, and get really upset when you ptove they can't.
Parents don't address lying. When a kid does something wrong, then lies about it, when he's found out, he's only punished for initial trangression. From kid's POV the attempted lie didn't cost any extra.
